I wish! I'm single and would love to have a straight edge vegan girlfriend.
patience topher, patience. lol
so if you are "straight edge", does that mean that you cannot enjoy the occasional single drink? ever? never ever?
I can totally see the importance of the vegan requirement because if you arent vegan, you are contributing to suffering. But I know that it is so important to both you and Rob to find somebody that 100% alcohol free. I can understand not wanting to be with somebody that drinks excessively or regularly, (I know that would be a huge turn off for me too) but what is so "immoral" about ONE DRINK ever ever ever- ??? is that the problem -- do you guys consider it immoral?
I dont really understand why that is an essential characteristic for so many of the men here. Please dont misunderstand me -- I am not judgng you (I think the men here are awesome) and I am not saying that it should NOT be important to you -- I am only trying to understand what makes you guys tick, to understand what is important to you and why
, to get to know you better, that's all.
so please help me understand you a lil better
my post is not attacking anyone, I do not look down on others who do drink. In fact I just hung out at 2 bars tonight with friends who do drink. I am straight edge for myself.
I am simply just trying to answer questions so please do not take anything I say as a personal attack.
with that said...
no premiscuous sex
so correct, no drink ever. I do not consider drinking enjoyable. I find no need to poison my body with a depressant.
robert is not straight edge. I am. straight edge is a CONSCIOUS decision to swear off drugs, smoking, drinking, and premisc sex. no one is born straight edge. if one never touched a drug but never made the CONSCIOUS decision to swear off drugs FORVER...then they are just DRUG-FREE.
I should not have to explain the negative affects of alcohol as I am sure we all know.
what is so immoral about a lil drink? let me answer with a question:
what is so immoral about eating a little piece of meat? I see this the same way as alcohol. It goes against my beleifs. I am vegan so I would never take a lil piece of meat, just like I am straight edge I would never take a little sip.
there is a big difference between being drug-free, a social drug user, a habitual drug user, and straight edge.
straight edge is swearing off harmful addictions forever through abstinence. one reaches a point in their life where they decide they want to be in control of their own body, mind, and spirit and not be under the influence of any substance ever again, and yes this includes lust.
I was told I should be in lithium for my bipolar disorder.
I was completely against that...
my reasoning was that I didnt use drugs to become bipolar, so why should i use a drug to get be back to "normal". I decided from then on to never have to rely on drugs to be "normal" or to fit in or feel better about myself.
alcohol doesnt solve any problems. if i want to become more social, i dont need a drink...i will learn to have a more sociable personality then. if i am nervous, i dont need a drink to loosen me up, I will grow balls and get some courage instead.
I dont need to escape from my problems. I'd rather fight them head on.
I simply cannot understand how people can toxify their body and consider it enjoyable or pleasureable, just because its socially acceptable doesnt mean its a healthy lifestyle. as I am sure you do not understand why I dont drink, I dont understand why people do drink. to me I see it as a harmful situation. the same goes for caffiene.
hope this helped a little bit. if you want more info or to further discuss this please PM me. I do not want to hijack this thread.
I was simply stating I wish I had a girlfriend who had the same beliefs as me. Ive dated girls that have smoked, drank, and f*cked all the time, and vegetarians, vegans. you name it. I dont want someone who is simply drug-free. I want someone who made that commitment to never subbcumb to drinking or smoking and stuff.