If I eat out (and by this I mean eat at a restaurant), then I don't eat. I eat beforehand, or afterwards. I just go with my friends and sit with them while they eat. I'd never trust a restaraunt.
I can understand that, I used to be much more hardcore about such things. For better or worse, I have mellowed out a lot in my old age.
Do you ever worry that you are making veganism appear opressive and unattainable to your friends? Would it be better to order a vegan meal and let your friends see how easy it would be to be vegan? Just wondering, I respect your choices regardless.