Any suggestions you have are welcome on this primary issue of me (and our family) becoming full, ongoing vegans.
My child's been in day care for a while, until my wife gave birth. He's 3 years old, and hasn't been eating vegan due to what they served at the day care. We offered to provide some vegan meals, but they told us we could not because they would lose a chunk of their government funding unless we supplied ALL the meals for EVERY time he ate at day care. With our busy lives, this became an insurmountable task. Switching day cares was not possible because most in our area have 1-2 year waiting lists which makes an immediate switch impossible. But now he's home (and staying out of day care with mom until August), so this really is no longer an issue.
However, the primary sticky issue now is a relative who is pro-meat/dairy for children. My wife highly respects and is close to this person and actually feels she owes her a lot for what she did for her earlier in her life, long before I met my wife. I won't go into details, but needless to say, this relative's opinions holds a lot of weight in her mind--more, quite often, than I do. Despite giving exhaustive resources for protein sources, the health benefits of veganism, etc., this person is not only not convinced, but militant and zealous to the point where she's saying we're not raising our kids right if we do that. I've spoken to this person directly about this, but we've hit a wall in getting along, much less speaking about much in common.
At this point, this particular relative I can never hope to convince, and every time we visit this person as a family, immediately when we end up back home he's eating cheese, eggs, etc. (fed by her) because my wife is lecturing me how our son is not getting enough protein. (I have a strong hunch that they are talking about this in private when they get together due to the immediate, 'overnight' change.)
Anyway, though my wife and I have a good relationship, this issue is particularly sticky, and it leads to some arguments, though over time I end up convincing my wife (until the next time she and this relative get together) that veganism is the way to go, and we feed our son well for a while. So I've kind of taken on a "as much as possible is better than nothing". But it's been bothering me for a long time.
So that's basically it. I can't convince this other person, and my wife is influenced by her so much that there's a deadlock there, too. So I feel I'm fighting an uphill battle with two people instead of one, and I'm the one that cooks all the meals and gets the end-around treatment if I don't cook something with animal protein.
Incidentally, this person's ex-boyfriend was (and still is) a vegan (and has been for 20+ years), and this was clearly one of the things that caused an issue in THEIR relationship as well.
Anyway, my wife is behind veganism in principle and when she's not in contact with this relative everything is fine. It's just this influential relative that seems to affect everything else, but I have to deal with it, I guess.
Thanks for listening.