Thanks! Yeah I guess I haven't said what I'm doing in this thread...
I wanted to create a nutrition plan / diet I could stick to, which would give me everything I needed to keep me healthy long term, and also something to help reduce weight until I reach a size I'm happy with.
After talking with Robert and some others, I'm trying to focus on whole foods, and cut out all sugar and nearly all processed foods.
So right now I am having smoothies with primarily bananas and spinach, but also flax, and berries (also take a B12 supplement in the morning). During the day I have a very small serving of oats, with a small serving of walnuts, almonds and sultanas, with flax and soy milk. For snacks I have more fruit - bananas, apples, pears, grapes, kiwi... Later in the day I have a large meal of vegetables - generally broccoli or kale with sweet potato, but also sometimes red kidney beans, sweet corn, or something else like a vegetable curry. I may also have another smoothie or a couple more pieces of fruit.
I was aiming for around 1800 calories per day, and as little fat as possible, whilst keeping protein up. I also wanted a very rigid diet that I could calculate every bit of, and not stray from it. But after talking more with Robert, I think it's best to vary what I'm eating per day. The reason for this is just that calories get used up so quickly when adding different foods, and it's actually easier for me to say "this meal will be kidney beans and sweetcorn", and then another day "broccoli and sweet potato"... it's more of a pain to prepare lots of little things, rather than just have a whole head of broccoli, or a whole can of beans etc. So I do switch it up now, so the numbers are not completely square per day. Still, I am getting around 100g of protein a day (usually more), and about 30g of fat, and usually around 1800 calories, sometimes a bit more or less, so it seems ok.
Only exception to this is that I go out for a meal once a week with my partner, to our favourite place. What we eat there is not so healthy, and I guess ultimately I should cut that out as well, but it's not like I am obese, so I don't see the need to take that out, as I am definitely making progress as it is.