I go very much for a "type", and have probably missed out on some great dating opportunities along the way because of it.
Well, it's good that you know this now
. Best thing, in my opinion, is to date a variety of people -- even those not your "type." SOooo many interesting people out there; it's silly to limit oneself from the joy and learning of knowing others different from oneself.
I do believe despite what anyone says though, that you have to be physically attracted/interested in someone to want to get to know them more. However, maybe this is where the internet has a plus side. You can actually often get to know someone before actually seeing them physically and this could change your views.
I agree to an extent. That is, attraction or aesthetics is not an evil thing; I do think it is shallow and will not produce a solid relationship if one bases a relationship on it. There has to be more. Some people jump through hoops for someone because they believe this person is the "best" (looking) they will ever get, and somehow place a high value on that one, silly attribute...Never works out, though.
I agree about that plus side of internet "dating," though I have other issues with it
. I would rather someone like me/dislike me or contact me/ignore me, based on what I write or my "personality," rather than make a decision based on what I look like. Who wants someone like that anyway??? Am I of more value because I look good? Or am I of lesser value because I'm not attractive? Anyone who makes a decision based on that is NOT someone I would spend any of my time with.
My type though is muscular - actually the more muscles the better and if they have some body ink, well thats just heavenly lol
Okay, but what type has this brought you? Are you basing your decisions just on that?
What else do you see as a pattern in your type besides looks? Have they all been inconsiderate? Do they all have a cruel streak? Are they all mamma's boys? Are they all super kind and patient? Are they all passive? Are they all generous? What is your pattern?
What I find the most sexually attractive is basically a female version of me.
So basiing on looks would have been a mistake
I am pretty proud of the fact that I have dated a ton of "types"
I have made a conscious decision (since I first started dating, by the way) to do so, and I've met GREAT people. I think it's silly to limit oneself. After all, a date is just a date! One doesn't have to get married or commit..it's just a date. Learned that from my dad before I started, actually; he never wanted me to get stuck on one guy...probably a father's fear
Great advice, though.
It's hard for me to see my pattern, though, as a result
. I can definitely see some truths about myself
; so that's good; it's just hard facing the truth about oneself sometimes
And, I still haven't found the right person for me; but it's not an issue, really. I don't look; and if there isn't anyone, that's fine too.
ETA: Oh, and as far as physical
attractiveness, I also have no "pattern"! If there is one, I guess it would be that there isn't one. I find so many features, qualities attractive. The difference -- or uniqueness, perhaps -- is what I like. I like interesting faces as opposed to cookie-cutter good-looking. Race doesn't matter either, as I've dated so many, especially living in L.A., you can't help but meet so many from everywhere.
As well, many people become physically attractive the more you know them and learn who/what they are...that's the best