I am about 260 pounds and I can't take it anymore. I am a 39 year old male. Married with 3 kids (10,11,13). I want to be healthy and strong for my family and their offspring. I have lots of energy but no motivation. I am an I.T. Manager so I sit in front of a PC all day. I love the idea of being a Vegan but have no idea where to start. Also. I want to loose all this disgusting fat that I am hauling around. Power is everthing in survival so here is your chnce to be in COMPLETE CONTROL! So I bow down and surrender myself to anyone who has the POWER. I need someone to tell me 2 things (for now, baby steps). One... How do I start to become a Vegan? Two... Is the best way to loose all this fat to start walking then jogging then running? Thanks in advance to anyone out here, you may be the one who can save my life (not suicidal, just unhealthy).
Never been a stupid question in the history of the Universe, skullyard. We are all experts on some things, amateurs in others. Everybody on this forum started somewhere. They made changes, screwed up a little here and there, made some adjustments as they went along, and learned what was right for them. No two people in here do it the same. The only one single, unifying goal in here is that we all want to feel good.
So, wherever you start, whatever you do and however you do it, make sure it feels good. I cannot stress that enough. If it doesn't feel good, you're not going to want to do it again tomorrow. Or the next day. Or next year. Start with what is easy to do, makes sense to you, and is fun. You'll be a success from the get-go that way and your confidence will build on itself. When you make gradual changes, your mind and body will assimilate them effortlessly and there won't be any backlash. Do one thing today and do it really well.
Don't make the mistake of punishing yourself or your body for where you are right now. There's nothing wrong with where you are. Your body is an amazing machine and it's just been following orders, doing the best it can to keep itself on an even keel with what it's been given. Be happy that it's working so well and depositing the extra stuff as fat. Some people's internal machinery doesn't work that efficiently and they go through hell every day. You are pretty healthy, overall, and smart, and you have the freedom to go wherever you want from here. Now, THAT'S power.
Motivation is doing something because you fear the consequences if you don't, inspiration comes from within. It's an internal fire. Do this for yourself because you want to. Leave everything and everybody else out of the equation, even your family, and find a handful of reasons that support your goal for you alone. Because you will be going to that gym alone most days, eating alone as a vegan around a table of omnivores, being your own coach when things get tough. It's gonna be you and you as a team, so "get your coach on."
MOTIVATION: "I want to get rid of this disgusting fat."
INSPIRATION: "Man, it will feel so good to wear ass-huggin' jeans on casual Friday and get over-the-shoulder glances from the women at the office."
"God, I love taking off my shirt at the park and feeling the sun on my chest."
"It's gonna be great to know I look sexy when I'm covered in sweat."
"I'm going to have so much fun eating huge amounts of delicious food and never worrying about my weight."
"I'm looking forward to the day when a guy approaches me in the gym and says, 'You look like you know what you're doing, could you tell me if I'm doing these military presses right?'"
"I'm gonna love playing outside with my kids and wearing them
"One day soon, I'm gonna overhear my wife say to her girlfriends, 'He's in even better shape than when we met. I can't get enough of his arms! They're like rock!'"
"When I reach my first goal, I'm celebrating the hell out of it and doing something fun that I haven't done in a while, just to treat myself."
"It's hilarious when people guess my age and undershoot it by five years."
"Man, that 45 pound dumbbell felt like nothing
"Here comes my kid again, wanting to show me off to his/her friends. I feel like the neighborhood celebrity."
"Wow, my in-laws never listened to me so closely before, it's like they're hanging on every word. I guess I must be pretty hard to ignore when I look this good."
"Ha, ha! I can't believe my friends are actually asking me how to become vegan, too, after giving me all that crap about it last year."
"Is that really MY chest in the mirror? I am one freaking POWERFUL son of a bitch!"
Now, do one thing that you can do today
. Do it well. Feel good about it. Do it again tomorrow. Add more. We are excited as all hell for you.
PS: If it feels right, take BEFORE measurements/photos/weight so you can get a rush out of seeing how far you've come. You can crop the pics so no one will know you who are.