I don't think that if your husband pierced his ears, it means that he is gay. I think there's nothing wrong with it, and it's great that he still tries to make himself look better. My ex wife broke up with me because she needed someone younger, and I think she was missing something like that in me. But now I just use websites like www.onenightfriend.com/older-hookup.html to find someone to have a good time with, and that's more than enough for me.