Barb123 Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 Any advice on dealing with a non vegan husband? He's generally supportive to some degree but refuses to even try my vegan dishes. Lately he blames every little sniffle I have on being a vegan. I've tried to get him to read some books on the topic and even a magazine but he thinks this is "a phase". VERY frustrating and to make matters worse there are no vegans at the gym or in my local area. Thank God for the Vegan bodybuilding and fitness community!Any words of wisdom on dealing with this would be most appreciated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fallen_Horse Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 He's generally supportive to some degree but refuses to even try my vegan dishes.This is two contradicting statements in one sentence. Just hearing your side of the situation, to be honest it sounds like he really isn't supportive at all. I have never been a fan of 'keyboard psychology', so the only advice I can give is that you should have some serious talks with him, explain your frustrations, and try and find a good compromise. Going to a pro psychologist is a good step too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beforewisdom Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 I agree with Fallen Horse. It is your marriage, I would go get real help from an experienced professional instead of hoping that some 20 something web board kid who hasn't lived will come up with some gem of advice. BTW....good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb123 Posted December 30, 2009 Author Share Posted December 30, 2009 Thanks- you're right about the internet not being the go to source for advice......but it IS an accessible outlet at times. I'm making an appointment with a professional today. He is atleast willing to try that approach.....so here's to hoping it works! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
New World Vegan Posted December 30, 2009 Share Posted December 30, 2009 He seems not supportive, but bothered by it. If you push information on him, he might feel your forcing your diet on him. Just keep your 2 diets separate. If he ever comes around, it will be his decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octopussoir Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 do NOT push it on him. A lot of people think that eating vegan is unacceptable.... so they never even try it. Pushing it on him will push him further away. Do what you do and accept how he is. If youre making a meal make your dish separate. I do it all the time and it works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb123 Posted December 31, 2009 Author Share Posted December 31, 2009 Than you guys for all the feedback. I think we're slowly but surely working things out.....one day at atime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vegan Joe Posted January 1, 2010 Share Posted January 1, 2010 Than you guys for all the feedback. I think we're slowly but surely working things out.....one day at atime.Let it go, be you, and let him be him.Someday he might change, but don't count on it, let it be a positive example, without telling him you are. If you love the person, you have to know we are all perceived as faulty by others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lobsteriffic Posted January 3, 2010 Share Posted January 3, 2010 I have a non-vegan husband so I can relate. He acknowledges all of the reasons to go vegan, but, in his own words, he "just likes meat too much." Often I will make a veggie side-dish that is vegan and I will have some beans or tofu to go with it and he will cook himself a meat dish. Other than that I try not to criticize his food and he doesn't really comment on mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CollegeB Posted January 3, 2010 Share Posted January 3, 2010 There are many vegans in this situation so you are not alone. It's a good sign that he has agreed to whatever professional help you both are going to see. If this was a huge problem like this becoming a personal issue he'd probably not agree to go. Your frustration most likely is coming from feeling like you have not been heard since our arguments to go vegan are rock solid and very convincing, how could he not go vegan? All his reasons are probably not very convincing to you, and they don't convince the rest of us either I agree with octo and the others on not pushing your husband to go vegan, and also for you to let the conversion or dealing with issue go and just be a positive model. Robert has espoused this philosophy for as long as I can remember and I think it's a great way to deal with a world that can be frustrating. We can live our lives the way we want and hopefully this will appeal to others more than getting in their face. It sounds like you both are working on this in a constructive way so I hope this continues. Stay positive and keep coming to the forum. This is a very supportive group with a great variety of experiences, knowledge and viewpoints. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seitan_man Posted January 3, 2010 Share Posted January 3, 2010 Get a new husband. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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